Our three week holiday in Spain started on Friday. I had an idea how it would start. We would have our flight in the evening. I would have a day off. I would paint my nails, straighten my hair, take a long shower, do my bikini wax, write on my blog (how relaxed and joyfull it was to go on a holiday) and so on. Then we would leisurely go to the airport and fly to Malaga.
Guess, did it go that way? Not quite.
I had a nice day. I slept long. I shortened one of my dresses ready for the trip. Meditated. When I was coming home I saw that the door to our storages was slightly open. I felt something was wrong. I went to our storage and my feeling was right. Someone had broken into our storage. They had used a metal saw to break our lock.
I called my boyfriend and my mom. Told one of our neighbours what had happened and to check their storage. My boyfriend called the steward and insurance company. We also wrote a police report through internet. I didn’t paint my nails, straighten my hair, wax, take a long shower or write my blog.
What was taken from our storage was two valuable speakers, my rucksack with sleeping bag, mattress and tent, and also a bicycle (not a good one). That’s at least what we noticed before we had to leave. The good side on everything was that no one was hurt and I noticed it early enough. We had the time to sort everything necessary out before we had to leave.
Now we are in Spain and starting our amazing holiday. This burglary changed the perspective. Going on a holiday wasn’t the same as going on an any holiday. These situations force us out from our “normal life”, from our comfort zone. They’re something that shake us awake. They push us to let go of the unnecessary. Whatever that might be.
What I got from what we lost
Moreover, in these situations space is giving us information. Maybe we should change something. Maybe we should give space to something new. Maybe we should let go. And maybe because of the event we get rid of something unnecessary. We let go. We change. Something can arrive. Something can be transformed.
This is how I experienced it.
Someone broke into our storage. So maybe it’s time to move on. We are anyway planning to move to another part of the town at the end of this year/beginning of next year. Now it seems it could be before. Maybe we shouldn’t settle for our current life for too long. Instead, there’s something even better waiting for us so we should just go for it.
My rucksack was stolen. This was the rucksack I’ve been carrying around europe and other parts of the world for a few years already. I carried it as a person I was then. Now I have changed. I’m not totally different but I’m not the same either. I feel that some extra burden that I shouldn’t carry with me anymore was taken away with the rucksack. Some parts of myself that I have identified with for all these travels should be now let go. Those parts that are putting me down, making myself insecure or feel limited.
Most of all, this burglary forced me to change perspective. And it seems this whole trip is about changing perspective. Things aren’t great because they go as we have expected them to go. They are great because they can happen just as they do.
We can find bad sides or aspects in anything we want. We can also find some good in the bad, which is obviously harder. All of it is a matter of habit. When we have a habit of finding faults, we will find it even in a paradise. There will never be real contentment, real richness or real wealth. But when we have a habit of finding good even in the bad, the bad won’t be that bad and good will be even better.
Changing perspectives can be crusial to our wellbeing. For me it’s a constant work in process. It’s not an easy ride. But it is and will be worth it. And yeah, sometimes I would rather just be cranky, cry and complain. I might even do that for a while for no real reason. What can I or anyone else gain from it? Life isn’t always rainbows, sparkles, sunshine and hopping up and down. It can be stable. We can be stable.
By changing perspectives we can learn to be more stable in whatever happens. For me that is true wellbeing, contentment and happiness. Simply, stable like a rock. Radiating it’s power and joy – Our power and joy.
How cool would that be? For sure I will put some effort to it!